{"id":894,"date":"2025-03-12T16:33:50","date_gmt":"2025-03-12T16:33:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/expressrelationship.com\/?p=894"},"modified":"2025-03-12T17:32:07","modified_gmt":"2025-03-12T17:32:07","slug":"online-dating-is-not-a-contest","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/expressrelationship.com\/index.php\/2025\/03\/12\/online-dating-is-not-a-contest\/","title":{"rendered":"Online Dating is Not a Contest"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>You must know that online dating is not a contest, there is no rivalry amongst guys who are vying for the attention of a female when it comes to online dating activities. Become an adult. Rather than focusing on &#8220;winning,&#8221; shift your mindset to &#8220;searching.&#8221; We are not in high school here. At this point, you must know that online dating is not a contest; you are fully mature and have been for a considerable amount of time. You own the most valuable asset of all, and that is your mindset. Instead of focusing on all of the things that aren&#8217;t YOUR image of the perfect guy\u2014the one that every woman wants\u2014you should focus on the things that you admire in yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"735\" height=\"589\" src=\"https:\/\/expressrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/Free-Online-Dating-Service.jpg\" alt=\"Online Dating is Not a Contest\" class=\"wp-image-328\" style=\"width:750px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/expressrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/Free-Online-Dating-Service.jpg 735w, https:\/\/expressrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/02\/Free-Online-Dating-Service-300x240.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Do you want to know what it is that women want? That&#8217;s the question that has been asked for a very long time. As someone who happens to be of the feminine persuasion, I am able to share with you a few things that ladies desire and do not want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If a man is confident, women want him to be&#8230;NOT a haughty arrogant jerk. There is a significant distinction. Despite the fact that you should not be self-deprecating and should instead have a positive attitude about yourself, you should not give the impression that you are a gift from God to them and that you have just dropped from the sky. They don&#8217;t want you to believe that they have just arrived from heaven and are some type of flawless person by any stretch of the imagination. As a result, they are unable to meet that expectation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Recommended Reading<\/strong><br><a href=\"https:\/\/bishopadetunji.blogspot.com\/2018\/12\/how-to-stop-eating-in-dream-1.html\">How To Stop Eating In The Dream<\/a><br><a href=\"https:\/\/expresslifestyleblog.com\/fashion-evolution-how-accessories-make-a-difference\/\">Fashion Evolution: How Accessories Make A Difference<\/a><br><a href=\"https:\/\/expressrelationship.com\/index.php\/2024\/02\/14\/15-ways-to-deal-with-cultural-differences-in-a-relationship\/\">15 Ways To Deal With Cultural Differences in A Relationship<\/a><br><a href=\"https:\/\/regularlifehack.com\/natural-treatments-for-seasonal-affective-disorder\/\">Natural Treatments for Seasonal Affective Disorder<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They are looking for a communicator. The so-called &#8220;strong silent type&#8221; is everything from appealing in any way. They believe that you just don&#8217;t care about what they said or that you didn&#8217;t even hear what they said. They also believe that you probably don&#8217;t have an original thought in your brain and that you probably haven&#8217;t heard a word that they said. They want you to be intriguing enough that you want to learn more about you, and they want you to believe that they are interesting enough that you will ask them intelligent questions about the things that are important to them as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is not the desire of women to be a treasure that can be won. They have no desire to be shown as a prize. They want to be the ONE lady that stands out to you as the ideal companion.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You must know that online dating is not a contest, there is no rivalry amongst guys who are vying for the attention of a female when it comes to online dating activities. Become an adult. 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