Occasionally, a bad date happens to one person at a certain point in his or her life. One should do some assessment before writing off the person for life. No sparks at all? Too nervous to open any topic? Is he or she being rude? Here are some things that you can do.
How to deal with a bad date
1. If you are feeling too nervous, opt for a date over coffee. You will have less time fidgeting due too over nervousness since after finishing your coffee you can easily bid your date a quick “ta-ta”.
2. There is no excuse for a partner who is obnoxious and rude. Walk away
3. You and your date are not on the same wavelength? Be calm, stick it out, then respectfully go after the date. If your partner asks for an extension, say an after-meal drink, you can always politely (again) say no.
4. If you unintentionally insult your partner, simply apologize then move on. If your insult is not that severe, your date might just forgive and forget.
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5. Never provide entertainment at your own expense. Humor is cool, putting yourself down is not. It is not worth it to make yourself feel uncomfortable trying to impress your partner.
How to move on?
1. Don’t punish yourself for a date that went horrible, commend yourself for getting through it. Shrug it off, learn from it and then put it out of your mind.
2. Share the details with a friend. This way, you can treat it as more of a joke than something that will haunt you for life.
3. Put the awful date out of your mind and forgive yourself by becoming involved in something else. Dispel the negative energy faster than you think by getting some exercise, snacking on something sweet, or settling in for a movie.
4. Honesty and kindness are a good combination when it comes to turning down a bad date who would like a second round. Say something a bit blunt but peppered with some praise—is that an oxymoron?
5. Now, if you think that the person still deserves a second chance, by all means, give him or her the second try. You can always laugh the bad date incident away when you are more comfortable with each other.
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